YOE-ism

As I’m getting older day by day and since I’m already in my first quarter of a century, I started to realize that more and more people around me are about to settle down seriously with their life partners.

I had few housemates who walked away from our rental house since they’ve got into marriage and now I’m about to have another two tailing the previous footsteps. I guess when the time is right; all of us should be able to digest this kind of concept that the ultimate destiny of a relationship is definitely a marriage.

But the weird thing is, only those who don’t seem to be that closed with me ended their single life even before they reach my current age. Whereas, my other best girlfriends, who seem to have better education, better looks, better family background, better career and absolutely own an eligible partner for marriage don’t seem to bother to jump into this ultimate journey of a relationship. Well, they have been very all right with their beaux so far but I didn’t managed to overhear what they’ve been up to. All those questions such as when and why-not-now keep on pounding in my head but that’s it, I guess smart people like them would have better ideas to answer those questions.

I guess for me, stability in life – both sides are very crucial. And if anyone would come over and ask me those questions, my answer is simple; “I don’t even mind marrying him tonight but our bank accounts don’t seem to allow us to”. I think that’s the only barrier, which comes around when I start to think of settling down. But the irony part is, not everyone might have the same idea as mine. Few of my girls, and even their partners have gone steady for a long time, even before they actually finished their studies, but there they are, still being named as a girlfriend and her boyfriend. I might not know what they have in mind, and which side is actually so scared to commit, but I believe the time will come, someday and somehow. The contributing retreating factor; family discrepancies for an instance, shouldn’t come on stage when you have been together with that particular guy for few years. And if you think it’s way too much for you to handle, it’s NOW that you need to do something. Take it or leave it because the longer you drag it, it will only deteriorate your self-esteem. Trust me.

Coming back to my housemates matters, few weeks back I’ve been watching they’re being extremely busy with their invitation cards, wedding souvenirs, reservation on weddings garments, a gist of guests and et cetera, cetera, cetera. And the moment I watched them keeping up with everything, I wish that I really had a lot of money to make people do everything for me without having me hurting my back to fold all those invitation cards, and arrange everything by myself - bunga telur, wedding souvenirs in order to cut some cost. And that was when I know that it’s not easy to have a marriage.

But the great thing about a wedding is, it’s only once in your lifetime you’ve got to enjoy that splendid moment of your life, and all the difficulties you might face before that, it would worth it. And if you happened to get married few times in your life, just a quick reminder, only the first time is meaningful. Am I quoting somewhere? Yes, I do.